LCF’s ladies’ Sunday school is going through “Wising Up”–a Beth Moore study on Proverbs. In our last session, Beth talked about the difference between acquaintance and friend.<\/p>\n
She said that maybe a lot of people we call friends are actually acquaintances–people we communicate with on a head to head level, but never on a heart to heart level.<\/p>\n
Which got me thinking.<\/p>\n
I’m a head person–I like to think, I like to discuss, I like to debate. I like ideas–and interacting with people about them.<\/p>\n
While I have certainly coveted heart-to-heart relationships in the past, I find unrelenting heart-to-heart exhausting and unfulfilling. Give me a good head-to-head though… I rarely grow tired.<\/p>\n
I’ve spent almost ten solid hours talking politics with a friend<\/s> an acquaintance. I’ve spent hours talking medicine with others. Head to head is my forte.<\/p>\n
The hard part is where there’s a kindred-ness of heart without a kindred-ness of mind. <\/p>\n
Beth Moore spoke of friends as being people who you can be with without setting a “stage.” We “stage” our encounters with acquaintances by choosing to “do something” or “meet somewhere”. The stage is the movie, or the restaurant, or whatever.<\/p>\n
But therein lies my difficulty with Moore’s system of classification. According to her, an acquaintance is someone you interact with on a head-to-head level in a staged environment, while a friend is someone you interact with on a heart-to-heart level in an unstaged environment. My experience is different. My experience has been that both head-to-head and heart-to-heart relationships require stages. It is only when head-to-head AND heart-to-heart relationships coexist that the relationship can be truly unstaged.<\/p>\n
I have great friends (or perhaps it’s acquaintances). Either way, I truly enjoy the people I spend time around.<\/p>\n
But I long for a connection that goes beyond the one-sided exchange I live in so often. Either we connect head to head or we connect heart to heart–and neither the twain shall meet.<\/p>\n
I long for a dual connection–a friend that I can share my heart with, whose heart is shared with me, a friend that I can share my brain with, whose brain is shared with me. Someone I can dream with, someone I can discuss things with, someone I can do things with, someone I can do nothing with. This is the kind of friendship I desire.<\/p>\n
Is it possible on this side of heaven? Is such a whole-person union to be found? I don’t know. But still I dream. I dream of giving my whole self to someone and receiving that someone’s whole self in return.<\/p>\n
A romantic notion? Certainly. An impossible notion? I certainly hope not.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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