This is a continuation of Daniel’s and my story. Read part 1 for context.
I had mixed feelings about Jeremy’s offer. Here I was learning how to enthrone Christ and dethrone marriage–and God sends temptation my way in the form of a setup. I don’t want to lose the ground I’ve been gaining, learning to make Christ my supreme treasure. At the same time, I am acutely conscious of how often I have whined that people don’t understand how to set others up–and commented that I wouldn’t at all mind being the recipient of a setup done right.
Jeremy did the set-up right. He got the idea and mentioned it to the man (to Daniel). Once Daniel had assented to the idea of being set up with me, Jeremy had approached me about arranging an introduction. Everything was just the way I’d described “the proper way” to set someone up. I rather felt that I’d be a hypocrite if I refused the setup after all my whining.
I sent Jeremy a message that evening saying that I would be okay with a Facebook introduction, but that I wasn’t sure how much time I’d be able to spend on a relationship since I was pretty busy at work (which was very true.)
I spent the next couple of weeks second guessing myself.
Was this wise? I hadn’t spent much time praying about it-had kinda responded on impulse. I was still choosing to delight myself in Christ, wasn’t obsessing over Daniel. But the fact that I’d just agreed to the introduction before I knew for sure that I should troubled me.
Yay, the story!!!
The temptation, when has has found an idol in one’s heart, is to throw it our completely. It would have been easy to go the opposite direction and think that maybe God didn’t want you to be married. But people should not toss out food, spouse, children, etc., all of which can become idols — they just have to be put in their proper place, and this sounds like what you’re doing with marriage.
Looking forward to reading more!
Somehow I guess I missed the first installments of this.
I had a similar story, and I think a lot of women do. Marriage (which is good) can become an idol(which is bad) and it seems like as soon as I got to the place where I was like, “Ok, I’m content being single.” BAM! There was Mr. Right.
Also, why aren’t we best friends? I whine about how set ups can be awesome all the time aside from people who don’t do them right. This is amazing. It’s like reading my own brain.