I am NOT a Hipster

She stopped me in church to compliment me on my outfits, my hats.

“You don’t see people dress like that around here,” she said. “My daughter lives in Portland–and they do a lot of stuff like that there.”

I smiled and thanked her while inwardly exclaiming: “A hipster! She thinks I’m a HIPSTER!”

Allow me to explain my perception of the hipster ethos in video form:

The ironic and rather pretentious hipster attitude really turns me off.

Yet, when I described this woman’s intended compliment to Daniel, he said that I do exhibit some aspects of the hipster.

After all, I wear hats to church. I buy most everything used. I adore vintage clothes. I adore vintage fabrics. I’m all about DIY.

But I’m NOT a hipster, I proclaimed.

Nevertheless, I was unable to explain why I was not a hipster.

Until I read this Op-Ed (HT: Vitamin Z) in the New York Times:

“If irony is the ethos of our age — and it is — then the hipster is our archetype of ironic living…

The ironic frame functions as a shield against criticism. The same goes for ironic living. Irony is the most self-defensive mode, as it allows a person to dodge responsibility for his or her choices, aesthetic and otherwise. To live ironically is to hide in public.”

Really, author Christy Wampole explains, the hipster ethos is all about protecting oneself from mockery by living a life of self-mockery.

And here is where I differ from the hipster.

While I love vintage and hats and old clothing and bicycles and making my own compost (okay, the last is not always the most successful venture), I don’t do so out of any sense of irony.

I simply enjoy those things.

Hence, a recent Facebook wall post:

“I am of the ‘don’t-call-my-Christmas-sweater-ugly’ persuasion. (Also, please show proper respect for my Christmas nighties, socks, turtlenecks, and pajamas.) Yes, I am one of those who enjoys Christmas kitsch without the protection of irony.”

I’m not trying to be either cool or counterculturally uncool. I just like things. I think they’re fun. And they happen to be some of the same things hipsters are “ruining for the rest of us”.

In short, I am NOT a hipster.

(Feel free to add your Yeah, sure‘s here :-) )


Choosing names

Getting married in the modern era is a process fraught with decisions. When will the wedding be? Where will the wedding be? Who will we invite? What will we register for? What colors should our attendants wear?

These are all among the all-important wedding questions. But there are other, equally important non-wedding questions to answer.

Questions like: What name shall we use? Will she take his name, he take hers, or will they hyphenate? Or perhaps they will keep their same names, either for all uses or only on a professional basis. If they keep their own names, will their children have his name, hers, or a hyphenated name?

Daniel and I also have to deal with the naming questions.

You see, Daniel’s last name is a very common Hispanic name (in the top ten last names in the US as of the 2000 census.)

Which means we (er, I) have learned a bit about prejudices.

I’ve seen it on their faces when I let Daniel’s last name slip. I see the mental adjustment of expectations. They’d been imagining Daniel white, like me – but now they have to think differently (or they choose to think differently.)

It’s not all prejudice, though. Some people make assumptions in an attempt to be kind – like when the school calls Daniel’s brother about his son and leaves the message in Spanish.

Others think Daniel’s last name (and its incongruity with his appearance) is hilarious. Like our car dealer friend, who insisted that, with a last name like ours (yes, I’ll be taking Daniel’s name), we should name our car something “Mexican”.

Of course, my family (at least one of whom had already taken to calling us his “Mexican sister and brother-in-law”) took to this suggestion. They were eager to offer naming advice and ideas, throwing out “Juan” and “Jose” and “Eduardo” and “Ricardo”.

I sat on the suggestion for a week, ruminating over the various options. Every so often, Daniel asked me if I’d named the car yet. Day after day, my answer was no.

I looked up Hispanic names online, tried some on our Sentra for size.

At last, I’d narrowed the options to two. I asked Daniel what he thought of Alejandro or Javier.

When Daniel responded, it was clear what must be done.

Alejandro he is.

Our first naming decision has been made, with relatively little stress. Next time, though, I’m gonna guess I’ll not be quite so open to suggestions (I will NOT be naming a son Juan or Eduardo. Just sayin’.)


Where you go…

You know that verse people always pull out around wedding-times?

“Where you go I will go, and where you lodge I will lodge. Your people shall be my people, and your God my God.”
~Ruth 1:16

Obviously a romantic and wedding appropriate Scripture, right?

But the context of this verse isn’t a wedding at all.

Actually, it’s a funeral.

Ruth’s husband has died, as has her husband’s brother and father. Now only she, her sister-in-law, and her mother-in-law remain, destitute widows in Moab.

Naomi, Ruth’s mother-in-law, urges Ruth and Orpah to return to their fathers’ houses, to remarry and to be happy.

Ruth protests, saying that she would rather be a foreigner in a foreign land, would rather work to support her helpless mother-in-law, would rather adopt a foreign God than leave her beloved mother-in-law.

A far cry from modern mother-in-law stories.

So many women are at odds with their mothers-in-law. Or if they aren’t at odds, they don’t protest at the profusion of mother-in-law jokes.

This saddens me.

That’s not what I want my relationship with my mother-in-law to look like. I don’t want to roll my eyes at her and forever be competing with her (whether actually or just in our minds) for my husband’s affection.

While I certainly don’t want to be in Ruth’s situation, I would love to have the kind of relationship with my mother-in-law that I would respond as Ruth did.

Of course, I have on good authority that my soon-to-be mother-in-law is a wonderful woman and a fantastic mother-in-law.

When Daniel and I were visiting his brother and sister-in-law before my trip to Philadelphia, Katie shooed her husband from the room so she could give me the down-low on the family. (She must have seen the writing on the wall–we got engaged, much to our surprise, only days later.)

Katie had only good things to say about her mother-in-law, a woman who I had not yet met.

Now, having met Paula, I can say with certitude that I am inclined to like her and am very much looking forward to having her as a mother-in-law.

Of course, this week I have extra incentive to repeat Ruth’s words:

Where you go I will go
since she’s going to Wichita

and where you lodge I will lodge
actually, I’ll be staying elsewhere, but we’ll both be spending a good amount of time at the home of her son, my betrothed

Your people shall be my people,
That is, her son shall be my husband (!)

and your God my God.
I am so thrilled that my future mother-in-law is a woman of God who will pray for Daniel and I and encourage us in the Lord.

This weekend, I have the delightful opportunity to travel with my future father- and mother-in-law to Wichita (9 hours roundtrip) to see Daniel.

While I won’t lie and say that I have no apprehensions, I am overwhelmingly excited for this chance to get to know my in-laws better (and maybe to learn a little more about the man I love.)

Where you go, indeed.


An unintended Blogging break

This last stint has probably been the longest I’ve gone without blogging since I began posting regularly some 4 or so years ago. It has now officially been 14 days.

I’ve considered blogging breaks before, but never too seriously-and I didn’t end up planning this one at all.

I’ve just been busy.

In no particular order, here’s what I’ve been doing with my time.

Working

I’ve mentioned a bit about work, but haven’t mentioned (that I remember) that I’ve been acting as interim Director of Dining Services at my facility in Columbus while my dietary manager has been gone on leave. This has been in addition to my other duties which have been extensive due to my other dietary managers needing to take leave as well. My manager in Columbus will not be returning and I am pleased to announce that, as of next Monday, I will no longer be traveling. I will be giving up my two long-distance buildings and will be the RD/Director of Dining Services for Columbus.

Teaching
Teaching Sunday School continues to be a delight. It is much easier this year since I have a great curriculum and helpers-but it continues to take time.

Learning
My national professional conference just finished up today in Philly-and I’ve been here soaking up classroom time. I’ve also been tweeting from the conference, which has involved learning how to use the touchscreen of a borrowed tablet.

Sightseeing
I did take the afternoon after the conference to see the most important Philly sights (that is, but the historical ones). The loaned tablet came in handy for snapping pictures of myself with the Liberty Bell and at Independence Hall.

With Daniel
Before I flew out, Daniel and I got to spend some time together. We spent some time in the city-but also some time just hanging out at his brother and sister-in-law’s house (where I was staying). Daniel’s adorable niece (almost 4 years old) took some pictures of us-which means I can let you see him (albeit a facial-hair-less version of him, which is unlikely to last long).


Farmers and Favorites

Sunday School teachers, like every other sort of teacher, are not supposed to have favorites.

They are supposed to love all their students equally.

And I do, I think, love them all equally–but there are some students that I enjoy more than others.

One in particular, may well be my favorite.

I call him my eight-going-on-eighty farmer.

There is never a lack for conversational topics with this kid, since all I have to do is ask him about what’s going on around the farm. He’ll be pleased to tell me about ‘nhydrous or bean or corn farming.

At the beginning of this fall session of Sunday School, while the students were filing in to class the first day, I asked the students what their favorite part of the summer was.

Most of the students responded with stories of celebrations or vacations. This student answered matter-of-factly: “Irrigatin'” Then he described the satisfying feeling of cracking open a pod of soybeans and squishing out the beans.

When prayer time rolled around last week, most of the students had typical children’s requests: Owies and family members who are sick and the like. This student wanted prayers for the harvest–and then for rain.

Yes, Sunday School teachers aren’t supposed to have favorites–but sometimes I forget in the sheer joy of teaching this particular student.


Snapshot: A Reluctant Fan

Those who know me know…that I am not exactly interested in sports.

It’s not that I have anything against them, per se–just that they fail to interest me.

But love compels me, and I have found myself at more games in the past month than (probably) I have attended in my entire life before.

Football

I love these people who God has set me into the midst of–and they love sports.

Football

So I take pleasure in cheering on Erik’s midget football team, Beth’s volleyball team, and Collin (#80) and Zach (#34) and the Columbus Middle School Sailors (No, they’re not actually the “Sailors”, but I’m going to go with Grandpa’s team name!)

Football

Loving them this way is definitely not natural–but it is certainly worth it.

“And this commandment we have from him: whoever loves God must also love his brother.”
~I John 4:21


Snapshot: Labor Day

Every new iteration of the Little Miss just gets cuter and cuter.

This Labor Day weekend, we enjoyed a weenie roast around my dad’s firepit.

The Little Miss had her little chair.

Little Miss with Potato Chips

And someone placed the bag of potato chips next to her.

She was pleased to enjoy them until some one or the other of us (What me? Never!) stole them from her to have some ourselves.

Little Miss

We’re pretty proud to have her.

Thanks, Debbie, for laboring to bring this little one into the family!


Friday the 31st

Once in a blue moon, you have one of those days.

It just so happens that yesterday was a blue moon. And one of those days.

It started out normally enough. Go to work, do work, get interrupted and don’t get anywhere near as much work as you should get done done.

And then I got the call from my cook.

Help was needed in the kitchen.

As in–roll up my sleeves and wipe tables, set tables, serve meals kinda help.

When I got done and did my dining room twirling (you mean you don’t do a tour of your dining room to see how all of your resident’s meals were and if you can get them anything else at the end of meal service? For shame), I offered to transport one resident to her room only to have her break down into tears.

It wasn’t me. It wasn’t my offer. She was just having one of those days and was discombobulated and overwhelmed and frustrated at her own inability to take care of herself.

But it was rather emotionally draining for me too.

I finally left the building around 7:30, sending a quick Facebook update as I did:

“I don’t think I even need to look it up. It’s GOT to be a full moon.”

A friend commented back that it was not only a full moon but a BLUE moon, which I realized at once was true.

As I drove by the stadium, I saw the cars and realized that–oh yes, I had been planning on going to Columbus High’s first home football game (and the first marching band performance of the year.)

I drove home, filled my water bottle, hopped on my bike and headed back towards the football stadium.

In a hurry to get into the game (I was already rather late) and with little option for where to chain my bike (why doesn’t this town have any decent bike racks?), I chained my bike to a low post. It was low enough that someone with will could lift the bike off–but the chain through the rear tire and around the pedals would have made it hard to take the bike anywhere without drawing attention.

I found my friends, squeezed onto the bleachers and cheered the boys on. The brother of a friend has become quite a dynamo on the team, and I was proud to hear Spencer’s name mentioned again and again over the loudspeaker.

The band, home to a number of kids from church, did an admirable job, marching like troopers in the 95 degree heat. Once the band kids sat down in the section next to us and once a bit of breeze came up, the rank odor of their superheated bodies wafted our way. Delicious (not).

Columbus pulled off a victory, from a 35-35 tie, with a last minute touchdown.

After the game, scores of fans made their way to the field to revel in the new taxpayer-funded Astroturf.

We stood around talking–and eventually determined that three of us (Beth, Jon, and I) hadn’t had supper yet.

Which, of course, calls for a late night taco run.

I ate my first Taco Johns. (Potato Oles. Meat and Potato Burrito. Crisp Shelled Taco. Sopapilla things. Yummy.)

We drove back, debating whether to drop me off at my bike or at home (I could always get the bike tomorrow.) We figured Jon could hold the bike out the car window on the way back to my house :-) so we drove by for the bike.

We drove along, laughing and wondering whether we weren’t on a one way section of the little turn about in front of the stadium, when I realized that we’d passed the post my bike had been chained to.

My bike wasn’t there.

Yeah.

We played around with possibilities for a while. Wondered at such a thing happening in Columbus, of all places. Seriously? A bike isn’t safe in Columbus?

I figured there was always a chance it was locked inside the stadium by some “grown-up” who locked up. I’d find it, probably. And worrying wouldn’t do me much good anyway.

Beth asked me about the bike. “How’d you get it?” she asked.

I paid for it. Around $500.

I think both Jon and Beth were starting to freak out. I was still pretty calm. It wasn’t like I could do anything about it.

One thing worried me though. The long weekend meant I probably couldn’t reach anybody from the school until next Tuesday. Which meant that if, on the off-chance, the bike had actually been stolen…the police would be like “And you didn’t say anything until now?”

So I called the police station.

Yesterday, at 11:18 pm, the Columbus Police Department logged an incident…well, maybe they did.

The switchboard operator listened to my story, took my information, started asking me to describe the bike.

How do I describe my bike?

“Um…it’s black, maybe 26 inches. It’s a ladies bike–or at least it doesn’t have the high bar. It has a, uh–what do you call that thing on the back? It has a rack on the back. There’s a mount for a speedometer on front but it wouldn’t have the speedometer installed.”

The woman was very patient. “Does the bicycle have any markings?”

I’m trying desperately to remember the brand, trying to think if I have an owner’s manual somewhere that would give details.

I’m remembering that my bike has a name, but I can’t remember what my bike’s name is. I know there’s a clue there but I can’t figure out what it is*.

The woman tries again: “What color was the chain you tied it up with?”

That was easier. “Oh, red. A combination lock.”

“Ma’am, we have your bicycle here at the station. One of the street department guys thought it was too nice to be sitting out and brought it in. You can come and pick it up anytime.”

Yep.

That’s my story. Friday the 31st.

Once in a blue moon in Columbus, Nebraska.


There IS a clue in my bicycle’s name. I call him Kane, as in “Citizen Kane”, because my bike’s brand is “Citizen” and it has “Citizen” written across the thingammy post that goes betwixt your legs.


Definitionally Cute

My favorite place to shop is the thrift store.

I’m an absolute sucker for fabric (“yardage”), books, and vintage clothing.

Even when I already own twenty plus yards of double knit, when I see another couple yards sitting in a bin for fifty cents a yard, I just know that I need it for that amazing double knit quilt I’ve got hanging around in my head. And vintage patterns? Who can resist, even if the sizing is wrong? (I have a dressmaker’s curve–unfortunately I haven’t made myself that dress form I keep saying I’m going to make to make fitting easier.)

Books. You know how much I love them. I used to buy them indiscriminately, ending up with multiple copies of the same book because I wasn’t sure whether I already owned them or not. Now I have the titles of maybe 2/3 of my collection (the fiction and the “religious” books) on a file on my Kindle so I can double check whether I already own something or not. Still, I find myself uber-tempted to buy duplicates just for the sheer love of books.

And clothes.

Honestly, I’m not a clothes horse in the traditional sense of the term. I’m not about keeping up on the trends or being fashion-forward or anything. But I do like browsing through the used store racks.

Most often, I’ll stop in my flipping to muse “Hey, that’s cute” over a dress or skirt. Then my fingers will slip inside to bare the tag.

Size 2.

Definitionally cute. As in, small.

Why do the clothes that little petite things wear appeal to me so much?

I’m neither fat nor big-boned, but some of those cute little things couldn’t fit over a single one of my thighs.

But they’re so cute.

Tiny, adorable, I-probably-couldn’t-have-fit-them-when-I-was-eight.

Which is probably why I stick with vintage.

Despite the evidence that today’s people are much fatter than yesteryear’s, I tend to find vintage that fits (or that I can take in just a bit to make it fit).

Why is that?

Maybe they just used more fabric in the olden days.

Yes, I’m going to guess that’s it.

Not like the cute things they sell these days which would never cover my (even my otherwise rather inadequate) bottom.


A llama in the llard

Columbus and Grand Island are home to a large and ever-increasing Hispanic population, and, while my Spanish is very poor, I try at least to pronounce peoples’ names properly.

Thankfully, the rules for Spanish pronunciation are fairly straightforward; so as long as I can see a name in print, I can pronounce it with something resembling accuracy.

One of the conventions of Spanish pronunciation is the double “l”, which makes the “y” sound, as in “yarn”.

So I am used to seeing double ls and reading Y.

What I am not used to is what happened Saturday evening as I drove home from work.

I saw a llama sitting in a yard and I thought…

Perhaps I have mentioned before my affinity for the written word; for instance, how I rarely understand movies unless they are accompanied by subtitles? But with all my affinity for the written word, I still think verbally. I think in spoken words rather than in written words.

Except for this time.

This time, I saw the llama and my brain thought in written form.

“Huh, there’s a llama in that llard.”

Yep. That’s right.

When I “read” what my brain had written, I read it as “There’s a lah-muh in that yard”, but I spelled it as written above.

Weird. Just weird.

The things our minds do.


My apologies for all my blog readers who are also Facebook friends who have thus been forced to hear this story twice. Have I mentioned that I’m experiencing a bit of bloggers’ block? Feel free to ignore everything I write until I emerge from this funk. Actually, I take that back. I’d still really, really appreciate your interaction. Maybe it would help me come out of the funk faster?