Those Pesky Spring Elections

I pride myself on being a good citizen–and in voting in every election. But today, for the second time in a row, I almost missed an election.

My brother sent me a text message reminding me to vote in the primaries in April. It was a good thing he did–because although I was up on the ballot issues, I had forgotten that the day was THAT day.

Today, I was walking out of work when I spotted someone else’s “I Voted Today” sticker. Thank goodness for that–elsewise I’d have never remembered today was election day. I’ve been on top of this election too–everything except the date, that is. I’d never fixed the election schedule in my mind, or scheduled it in my planner–and so, I almost missed it.

That’s the hard part of being a conscientious citizen–remembering to vote. You can be a registered voter, you can follow the issues, you can be informed about the candidates. But when push comes to shove, you have to remember to vote. And you have to remember to vote even when the nation isn’t deciding on its president.

Face it, it’s easy to vote for a president. You’ve seen the names for a good year, at least. You’ve heard the date at least a bazillion times. Everyone is talking about how November 2 or 4 or whatever has the potential to change the destiny of the nation. And when the day comes, everyone is proudly wearing their “I Voted Today” sticker. And if you happened to not come into contact with anyone, the TV and the Internet are awash with the latest exit polls.

The harder elections are the spring elections in the off years–the elections in which you vote for your city council members, school board, and airport authority. The elections in which someone tries to sneak a bond issue past an unsuspecting public. Those are the elections that are hardest to make–and the ones it’s most critical that you attend.

Face it, one vote out of millions doesn’t make quite as much difference as one out of thousands or hundreds. And face it, most “little” elections like the one today are attended by only a few hundred voters. That means YOUR vote means A LOT–as long as you actually get out to the polling place to vote.

So here’s a word of advice. Next time you hear of an election, put it on your calendar straight-away. ‘Cause it doesn’t matter how much you CARE, or how much you DEBATE, or how much you FOLLOW the news–if you DON’T VOTE, your opinion DOESN’T COUNT!


The Ordinary and The Peculiar

Ordinary: adj. 1. Commonly encountered; usual. 2a. Of no exceptional ability, degree, or quality; average. 2b. Of inferior quality; second rate.

It’s a word that often characterizes my life. Common, usual, without exceptionalism. Ordinary.

If my life had directions, a la shampoo bottles, the directions would read: “Wake up. Go to work. Work. Come home. Putz about. Go to sleep. Repeat.”

It’s not a bad life, when all is said and done. I enjoy my work, I love to putz. Sleep is good. As much as I long for the extraordinary, the unusual, the exceptional, the prime–I find myself quite content with the ordinary, the usual, the average.

I completed Nancy Moser’s Just Jane, a novel about Jane Austen, over the weekend. It was an enjoyable book–comfortably Austenish without trying too hard to mimic Austen’s voice. I could identify with Jane’s moods of peace and peevishness as she rode out the unexpected life of a spinster. Moser’s Jane was swept along by so many waves–decisions were made for her that were far less than her expectations or desires. And she let herself wallow in discontent for a while. But at some point, she has to find her home–she has to learn to be content to be “Just Jane.”

I feel that I am coming to that point–or at least that this ebb of the tide brings me to that place. I am content to just be me. I am content that my life be as usual. I am content to be unexceptional. To be ordinary.

Except that I know that ordinary I shall never truly be. For inside that “ordinary” capsule of day to day routine, I am one of the “peculiar people”.

“But ye are a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, an holy nation, a peculiar people; that ye should shew forth the praises of Him who hath called you out of darkness into His marvellous light.” I Peter 2:9

Peculiar: adj. 1. Unusual or eccentric; odd. 2. Distinct from all others. 3. Belonging distinctively or primarily to one person, group, or kind; special or unique.

Yep. That would be me. Ordinary, but peculiar.


The Lists of 5: Gender and the Field of Dietetics

Five Indicators You’re in a Female-Dominated Profession
    You attend your state professional meeting and…

  1. everyone’s dressed in their professional best–and no one is wearing a tie.
  2. dessert means chocolate–lots of it.
  3. awards include handshakes–and hugs.
  4. speakers refer to the audience in the “neutral” ladies instead of guys.
  5. of the 100 attendees, 3 are male.
Five Advantages of Being a Male in Dietetics
  1. Even shorter lines than usual at the bathrooms during professional meetings.
  2. A chance to be groundbreaking–to go where few men have gone before.
  3. Fawning female instructors, ’nuff said.
  4. Who wouldn’t want to be surrounded by that many women?
  5. Men need nutrition too.

Finding my feet

I don’t know what a “typical” dietetics internship looks like, but I’m willing to bet that this isn’t it.

I arrived at work on the first day of my fourth week of clinical rotations to discover that my preceptor’s mother had died–which meant my preceptor would be gone for a week. Which meant the medical-oncology floor would be missing a dietitian.

I have to say the experience has knocked me off balance a bit–but I think I’m finally finding my feet. And I’m sure I’ll be a stronger dietitian because of it. Allow me to elaborate:

Monday

Site visitors from ADA came to inspect the internship. The interns ate breakfast with them and answered questions.

I arrived at work an hour and a half later than normal. I discovered that Mary’s mother had died. I realized that two other dietitians were already off. I realized that left me and two dietitians to handle the whole hospital. I freaked out. (Okay, not exactly–only in my mind.)

I’m not sure what I did on Monday, except that I saw a lot of patients and looked over a lot of charts. And stayed an hour and a half later than normal.

Tuesday

I arrived at work ten minutes earlier than usual. I knew I needed to be at the top of my game. I gathered up the new referrals for my floor. Dear heavens, there were about a hundred. And all my old patients were still around. I ran around like a chicken with my head cut off. But I did manage to see all the patients.

I realized there was no way that I could continue seeing every single patient every single day. There are just too many of them. I noticed the system the other dietitians were using to determine when they needed to see a patient again. It’s brilliant. Crazy I hadn’t figured that out already. And kind of funny that no one showed me. Oh well!

I had a collection of patients that I wasn’t sure what to do with at the end of the day. One of the other dietitians walked me through the process. I felt like I was learning in hyperdrive. Just watching her flick back and forth, hearing her questions went loads towards helping me develop the all-important clinical judgment.

What about their BM’s? I’d never even thought to check on those before. Considering IV fluids to account for sharp drops in blood values. Balancing one diagnosis with another. It was fascinating. I worked an hour and a half longer than usual.

By the time I got home, I’d determined that I needed a new assessment worksheet. I needed a worksheet that would enable me to arrange my information in a way that will allow me to RAPIDLY reassess a patient–instead of wasting so much time trying to figure out where I’d written that particular bit of information. I drafted a new worksheet while watching “That Thing You Do” with my sisters.

Today

I arrived at work to find a whole new slew of patients. But I already had at least 8 patients that I needed to follow up with and chart on. That means I wouldn’t have time to handle all 7 or 8 new patients. So I picked out three and got started.

I only used my personal assessment sheets on the new patients–I didn’t want to waste time copying information that’s already there. But I’m noticing that it takes half as much time to do a chart review with my assessment. Yay for efficiency!

The only thing I can’t speed up is the other clinicians–and the patients and their families. I still wait outside of doors for the doctor to finish his consult. Or, even worse, for the entire family (of a dozen or so) to leave the room so I can speak to the patient in relative peace. I still spent plenty of time criss-crossing the floor waiting for charts and patients to become available.

But I got nine patients seen and charted–and I didn’t even need to ask for help (except for one patient, for whom I couldn’t discover a nutrition problem warranting charting). And I left at the time I normally do (did). I had to defer one new admit and one follow up visit due to the patients not being available. But all in all, I felt good about how things went. Especially because there are only three follow-ups due tomorrow.

But then…

On the way home, I realized that I’m going to be gone all Friday at a conference. Which means I need to follow up with everybody who’s “due” on Friday tomorrow. Except that on Fridays I have to follow up with everybody who’s “due” over the weekend. Meaning that tomorrow, I have: 1 new admit left over from today, 1 follow up left over from today, 3 Thursday follow ups, 6 Saturday follow ups, and 7 Sunday follow ups That’s a grand total of 18 patients–all of whom I have to document. And that’s not including new admits.

Yikes!

So if you have a few prayers to spare, you can drop a line for me and my patients. Pray that I’ll have clarity of mind and efficiency–but that I’ll provide top line care. Pray that I’ll know who to cover myself and who I need to hand off to another dietitian. And above all, pray that my patients show dramatic improvement and can be discharged before I have to see them tomorrow! (Not all of them–I’d settle for half maybe ;-P)

Mm-hm. This is what you could call a steep learning curve. I’m just praying that tomorrow doesn’t knock me off the balance I’ve so recently started to attain.


If this is what working the weekends is like…

I’d be glad to work every Saturday!

Just imagine it with me.

It’s a busy day. I have half a dozen follow-ups, half a dozen new admits. Nonetheless, I don’t have to jockey for charts; I don’t have to fight for a computer. I just grab the chart and jot down a few notes, see my patients and write down a few more notes, sit down at a computer and write my official “note”.

I’ve got a lot of patients–enough to keep me busy all day–but without all the people that are around on weekdays, I’m twice as efficient. I eat lunch when I’m hungry, and enjoy a book while I eat–I can actually spend time alone at work. It’s amazing.

Then there’s the interaction with patients and staff. Weekends are a whole different game. Instead of a hundred assortedly garbed health care workers busily running about, anxiously buzzing, a skeleton staff does their work with quiet efficiency–but not so much efficiency that they can’t be decent to each other.

They say, “Did I hear you say you’re with dietary? Do you mind stopping in to see so-and-so? She was asking to talk with a dietitian.” A doctor, a nurse, and I confer briefly about a troublesome patient. Another nurse reassures me that she’s taking a tray in right now for the fellow I just saw, who was anxious because he hadn’t eaten yet. I chat comfortably with one of the environmental services workers as we walk the same hallway together.

It’s a nice change of pace. Comfortable, efficient, friendly. I really would love to work every weekend, if this is what weekends are like.


A History of Hair: The Long and the Short

Many who have known me in my past ten or so years would have a hard time believing that my hair has ever truly been short. But it has. I offer you compelling photographic proof:

Exhibit A: I am born bald

Rebekah a few days old--and completely bald

Exhibit B: I am one–and still bald

Rebekah as a one year old--and still bald

Exhibits C and D: I begin to grow hair in my second and third years of life.

Rebekah at 2--with the beginnings of hair

Rebekah at 3--she almost has a whole head of hair

Exhibit E: I am bald

Rebekah at 3 1/2--and completely bald

My older sister, then almost five, began her haircutting career with a bang. She cut my hair and her own. No doubt she was excited to debut our ‘do’s at my uncle’s upcoming wedding (2 weeks away).

We were driven off to the barber’s to get our first non-Mom cuts. When we were done, we looked a little better, but still like little boys. I suppose I was lucky–at least they could get mine all even. Anna’s hair was clipped to about half an inch–but still had gashes all about. The only way they could have completely fixed her hair was to shave it all off and start over.

My cousin tells us of looking in her birthday party photos from about 6 months later and asking her mom why there were two little boys at her party with the rest of the girls. Anna remembers being mortified at having to wear a big floppy bow over her head at my uncle’s wedding. I don’t really remember the event that much. I guess it wasn’t that big of a deal to me (or something).

At any rate, I did get over it eventually–and my hair did grow back. It took a year and a half–but I would look like a girl yet again.

Exhibit F: My hair grows back

Rebekah's 5th birthday--she has hair again

Lest you get the wrong impression about my sister’s hair-cutting skills, I will clarify. She and Mom now tie as the most adept hair-cutter’s in our family. Both are highly in demand. I, on the other hand, rank a distant third after almost cutting off my brother John’s ear (never try to cut the hair of a squirrelly eight year old, no matter how hard he begs). Now, I can cut a half-way decent crew, and can operate the clippers with no problem–but it’s probably just as quick to do it yourself.


Women aren’t supposed to forget…

Forgetting anniversaries is popularly reckoned as man’s domain. Women aren’t supposed to forget. But, in my case, I’m not sure I remembered in the first place.

I’m talking about my “blog-o-versary”–the day that marks the beginning of my blog. Of course, discovering the exact day that I started blogging is somewhat difficult since “bekahcubed” has existed in some incarnation or another for five or more years.

However, while participating in Becky’s Birthday Carnival, I discovered that it was a year and a day ago that I began posting on a regular basis.

So, in honor of my forgotten “blog-o-versary”, I would like to share a few fun facts about myself–and invite you to ask me some questions that I shall attempt to answer over the next month.

Fact: Paul Menter is my father, not my husband.
We were talking just yesterday about how people look at us strangely when we go shopping together–undoubtedly assuming that I am the “trophy wife.” Then my new preceptor assumed today that the “Paul Menter” on my emergency contact information must be my husband–since it was just a male name instead of two names together. So, just to clear up any confusion: I am unmarried, and my dad is happily married to my mom.

Fact: I do not believe in any such thing as bad food.
The first thing people say when they hear that I’m becoming a dietitian is some variant on, “Oh, I know I eat all kinds of bad foods.” I disagree. Food is good–and that means all of it. That means carrots and celery and fresh baked muffins and white bread and bananas and swiss cake rolls and potato chips. That means juice and fruit drinks and soda pop made with (gasp) high fructose corn syrup. I despise the kind of “nutrition” that puts endless rules on what people can and cannot eat and completely zaps the fun out of food. I abhor the philosophy that “food is just fuel for my body.” Food is not a moral issue–food is food. It’s something that fuels our bodies, soothes our minds, brings us together, imparts meaning into our rituals. Food is integral to early socialization, to language development, to family togetherness. Jesus’ first miracle was at a feast–and he chose a feast to forever commemorate His crucifixion. Food is not bad–it’s good. The question isn’t whether a food is good or bad, but whether we use it in an appropriate way.

Fact: I like sardines…but only if they’re packed in mustard sauce.
My family calls them fish tails in mustard. They’re a great source of calcium and Omega 3 fatty acids–in addition to tasting fantastic. One time, I accidentally bought sardines packed in olive oil. I took one bite and gagged. They were disgusting! I couldn’t eat more. I did learn, however, that uneaten sardines in olive oil should be disposed of in an outdoor trashcan rather than left in the kitchen. EEEEWWW!

And now that I’ve shared a bit about myself, what else would you like to know?


I feel His pleasure

Have you seen Chariots of Fire? Do you remember when Eric Liddell was defending his decision to go to the Olympics to his sister, who wanted him to return to the mission field immediately? He said, “I believe God made me for a purpose, but he also made me fast. And when I run, I feel His pleasure.”

That’s how I felt today as I stood among a half dozen African American women and a couple others and demonstrated how to prepare a stir-fry “off-hand”.

It was a long day–I woke up late, ran to the office to pick up some danglers, ran out to Kawasaki to set up an educational display there, ran back home for the materials for this afternoon’s presentation, ran back to the office, ran to a presentation on diabetes, ran back to the office. You get the picture. But the last item on my agenda completely made my day.

Renee and I have been working on this “Gathering” for a couple of weeks now, reserving the kitchen at the Salvation Army and gathering together some folks to participate. I’ve been preparing a handout and getting together my cooking supplies. And today, we had our gathering.

I’d been off-kilter all day, but I was off-kilter no longer. Now I was right at home. I was where I was meant to be. Maybe God created me for a purpose other than teaching people the practical skills of eating healthy–but He gave me that passion, and when I exercise it, I feel His pleasure.

I’ve often mused, in past weeks, that surely I was created for a higher purpose than keeping up with the dishes and the laundry. I’ve stated that there must be something more to life than the day to day monotony of school and work. “This can’t be all there is!” I’ve cried. But today, as we gathered, I could only think “If this is all there is, I’d be content.”

Because when I teach people how to cook, I feel His pleasure. Because when I have the opportunity to help a community be healthier, I feel His pleasure. That makes it all worthwhile.

We were three white women, six black women, and a lone black man. Food brought us together around a table. Some cut, some mixed, some just tasted. Food was a common ground. One woman discovered stir-fry for the first time in her life. Another tasted water chestnuts for the first time. One woman decided that low-sodium soy sauce was just as good as the regular. Another woman discovered that brown rice is not as bad as she thought. They couldn’t stop telling me how impressed they were with how easy it was to cook a stir-fry–and it was healthy too! There couldn’t be a doubt in anyone’s mind: this wasn’t just information for them to sit on, they were going to use this stuff.

Photo of Gathering

They suggested I write a cookbook. They were nice beyond belief. They made me feel great about myself and about my dreams. Their approval was fantastic–but far beyond that, I felt the approval of God. ‘Cause this afternoon, in the Salvation Army kitchen, I felt His pleasure.

Wanna try making an Off-hand Stir-fry of your own? Check out my handout.


Name dropping down

Today, at a mini-conference/workshop thing we were holding at the health department, this guy came up to me and introduced himself: “You must be Rebekah. I’ve heard good things about you.”

Which is wonderful. I’m flattered.

But it also makes me wonder why. I mean, I’m familiar with name-dropping. I get it. What I don’t get is why people would bother dropping MY name.

For the uninitiated, allow me to reference Wikipedia on Name-dropping: “Name dropping is the practice of mentioning important people or institutions….It is often used to create a sense of superiority by raising one’s status. By implying (or directly asserting) a connection to people of high status, the name-dropper hopes to raise his or her own social status to a level closer to that of those whose names he or she has dropped…”

Which is why I’m so confused about why people would insert my name into their conversations about anything. My position, “Dietetic intern”, is far from elevated. My experience is miniscule. I can see no reason why anyone should reference me in conversation with another health professional–and especially to reference me in a complementary way.

Name-dropping down. Maybe it’s the new thing in corporate health care. Perhaps I should begin regularly referencing the janitor in my conversations with fellow professionals–after all, that’s not too far below my rank in the professional pool.

I should probably just accept it and go on–but the cynic in me still asks why. Why would someone bother to talk me up to the coordinator of one of the nation’s leading worksite wellness programs? It just doesn’t make any sense.


Groan with me

II Thessalonians 3:11 says “For we hear that there are some who walk among you in a disorderly manner, not working at all, but are busybodies.”

Yeah, I’ve heard the same thing. There’s someone, walking about, bringing disorder wherever she goes, not working in her own home, not working outside her own home, but determined to insert herself into everyone else’s homes.

The verse right before it, II Thessalonians 3:10, says “For even when we were with you, we commanded you this: If anyone will not work, neither shall he eat.”

So she’s not working. We’ve established that one. But she’s eating–voraciously. Not physically–it’s not like she’s going over to people’s houses and insisting that they feed her dinner. No, she’s eating emotionally and spiritually–going over to people’s houses or calling them on the phone and slurping up every spare ounce of emotional and spiritual energy they have.

And then she vomits and sucks some more.

II Thessalonians 3:12 says “Now those who are such we command and exhort through our Lord Jesus Christ that they work in quietness and eat their own bread.”

I wish I knew that I could apply this verse to that situation. I wish I could be certain that I could just tell her to go home, find a job (or even just start taking care of your children!), and learn to be emotionally and spiritually self-sufficient.

II Thessalonians 3:13 says, “But as for you, brethren, do not grow weary in doing good.”

I’m definitely not doing very well on this one. Of course, it’d help if I knew whether continuing to try in this relationship were indeed GOOD. It feels a lot more like casting pearls before swine.

Can’t I just do as II Thessalonians 3:14 says?
“And if anyone does not obey our word in this epistle, note that person and do not keep company with him, that he may be ashamed.”

I mean, I could handle a good long vacation from her. I could use a bit of time without her company. In fact, I can think of a half a dozen women who’ve already been sucked dry and could really benefit from some time away from her spiritual bulimia.

The hard part is II Thessalonians 3:15, “Yet do not count him as an enemy, but admonish him as a brother.”

She is a sister–a fellow believer in Christ. But it’s very hard to think of her as a sister when she’s acting like a leach. My little antibodies are bristling–wanting so hard to attack her–she’s destroying the body. Except that she is a part of the body. How can that be?

I don’t know how to deal. I don’t know what to say.

I doubt you know either.

But, please, please pray. For me. For the many women who’ve been emotional exhausted by this woman. For the woman. Pray for wisdom. For humility. For grace. Pray that she’d stop–oh, I don’t even know what to ask in regard to her. I guess, just groan for me, for us, please.

“Likewise the Spirit also helps in our weaknesses. For we do not know what we should pray for as we ought, but the Spirit Himself makes intercession for us with groanings which cannot be uttered. Romans 8:26