Gracebug: In Which I majorly shorten Grace’s Meme

My little sister Grace recently posted a meme that asked a whopping 81 questions about someone you know.

In the interest of time and, well, interest, I’m shortening it to 8 questions and using it as a way to introduce you to my little sis.

1) What’s her name?

Gracebug Joy

2) Do you get along with this person all the time?

Nope, which is what one of my old teacher’s said distinguishes a true friendship from a fake one. Grace and I are very similar, both rather passionate and emotional–which means we also tend to butt heads on occasion.

3) Has she ever cooked for you?

I believe she has-on many occasions, I’m sure, but I’m remembering a hamburger and pasta dish at my house. She cooks on occasion, but has mentioned that she feels that every time she cooks something a certain one of our brothers “one-ups” her by cooking something similar (only better, in her mind).

4) Does she have a nickname for you?

That’s a good question-I’m not sure? Grace? Help me out here!

5) How many times do you talk to this person during a week?

It depends. Sometimes several times, sometimes never. We live at a distance and I’m not much of a phone person. But we enjoy talking whenever I’m home or she’s up here, and we share the occasional text or Facebook conversation. Grace also knows that if she ever wants to talk with me about something, she can post it on her blog, of which I am a faithful reader and commenter.

6) Have you ever had a sleepover with this person?

Once upon a time, Grace slept on a rollaway bed in the school room. Then Anna and I stole her to live with us in our room. She probably will experience lasting dysfunctional sleep patterns for having spent her preschool and elementary years sharing a bedroom (and often a bed) with her teenaged sisters. Now, we have the boring sort of sleepovers, where she comes to stay at my house overnight because that maximizes time together when there’s an hour and a half drive to be made to get together.

7) Would you date this person’s siblings?

Absolutely not. Unlike some siblings of mine, I do not date my siblings’ siblings.*

8) When is the next time you will see this person?

Next Thursday, at her show choir concert (in which she has a solo part-You go girl!)

Grace blogs at A Teen Girl’s Mind. There, she shares, well, what’s on her mind. Generally, it’s angsty, emotionally-charged philosophical-political-high-school-drama-filled stuff. (Which I realize may not be your cup of tea. Fine with me, but I love her bunches and always enjoy interacting with her about what she’s written.)

* A so-thinly-it’s-not-even-veiled reference to my brother, who is dating our sister-in-law’s sister.

The Name I Call Myself

Just a bit of silliness found on Facebook…

Everyone has 6 names

  • Your Real Name: Rebekah Marie Menter
  • Your Detective Name: Black Cow
  • Your Soap Opera Name: Marie Dreams
  • Your Star Wars Name: Menmar Reter
  • Your Superhero Name: Charcoal San Realto
  • Your Goth Name: Black Apollo

Erm… Maybe not. A little black/gray heavy.

Actually, I have quite a few names, only one of which is listed above (hopefully, you can figure out which is which :-P)

Other names by which I’m known include:

  • Bekah
  • Bekahcubed (imagine that)
  • Bekahbekahbekah
  • Becky Jane (or Becky Jo)
  • Bek
  • Menter-bek
  • Bekah-lekah-high-techa-sinky-soah-a-la-Anne
  • Buns of Steel
  • The pediatrician (from one of my residents: “I need to talk to the pediatrician about what I’m eating!”)

Wanna play yourself?

The key is:

  • Your Real Name: Duh
  • Your Detective Name: Favorite color & Favorite animal
  • Your Soap Opera Name: Middle name & Street you live on (of course, I didn’t actually use the street I live on–I’m not giving out info like that)
  • Your Star Wars Name: first 3 letters of last name, first 2 letters of middle name, first 2 letters of first name, last three letters of last name
  • Your Superhero Name: 2nd favorite color & Favorite drink
  • Your Goth Name: Black & the name of one of your pets

And even if you don’t want to play that game, I’d love to hear some of your nicknames.

My Post-Apocalyptic Character

So, a Facebook acquaintance of mine posted this thing about “getting into character”. Not sure if it’s for a story or a video game or something entirely other–but I thought the questions were funny, so I’m going to pretend they’re a meme and answer them. (Please be aware that the answers to these questions are not necessarily true–which doesn’t necessarily mean that they’re false.)

What were you doing before the world ended? What was your job?

I was a librarian who spent most of my time in the basement book re-binding area “fixing” (aka reading) books.

Who did you eat for breakfast this morning, and why?

Albatross. “Rime of the Ancient Mariner” and Whodunit, the nerdy person’s mystery game.

What’s in your post-apocalyptic wardrobe? Which possessions do you always keep close?

Reading glasses, support hose, and Shakespeare’s complete works.

How do you feel about eating people? Is it evil? Where, if anywhere, do you draw the line?

Always wrong. But I don’t ask questions when I’m offered albatross (I Cor. 10:25)

How did you survive “the end” when so many others did not?

The aforementioned book rebinding area? Terrific fallout shelter. And books provide both hope and knowledge for surviving nuclear holocaust.

What are your hopes for the future? Do you think humanity will recover?

Future for this place? Maybe, maybe not. My hope is in another world.

What do you miss most about civilized life and the way things were?

A decent teapot. Boiling water in a pan makes a greatly inferior cuppa.

What things are better now?

No middle school “visitors” to the library.

Did you lose anyone special?

“Cat”, my pet fish.

Homemaking Meme

Barbara H. of Stray Thoughts has put together a little homemaking meme which provides a great opportunity to get to know one another’s homemaking styles.

1. Do you make a plan for the week? The day? Or just go with the flow?

Once upon a time, not too long ago, I had a weekly plan. I assigned a task to each day: laundry, upstairs cleaning, downstairs cleaning, grocery shopping/kitchen tasks (like baking bread, making yogurt, etc.), trash/recycling, and outdoor work. I followed it pretty faithfully and it worked pretty well.

Lately, though, I’ve spent so much time at work and been so exhausted when I get home that I haven’t done anything except laundry, which I still do faithfully every Thursday night.

2. When is your best planning time?

Humph. I don’t plan for my home life anymore. I never know what my work life might look like so I never know when I’ll be home or what sort of condition I’ll be in when I finally do get home, so I’m currently just flying by the seat of my pants on the home front. (If you think of me, pray that I could place some appropriate boundaries around work life–and learn to have a home life again.)

3. Do you clean room by room or task by task (e.g., do you dust the whole house at one time, or do you clean the living room completely before going on to another room?)

It varies from day to day–and whether I’m caught up on things or not. If I’m doing decluttering, I tend to do it in a circle around a room, taking care of one surface at a time. I get that surface entirely clean, dusted, and everything that needs to be done in or around it done and then move on to the next. On the other hand, I prefer to do all my vacuuming (in the whole house) all at once.

4. Do you do certain tasks every day every week, like a shopping day, a laundry day, etc.?

I guess I sorta answered that one on question 1. This is a habit I’d like to get back into.

5. What’s your least favorite housecleaning task?

Catching up. I hate when I get so behind that I really have to scrub and WORK at cleaning. I prefer to do it little by little so the task never gets that big (not that I’m doing that currently, bah!)

6. Do you have a favorite housecleaning task?

Making my bed with fresh linens. I love making hospital corners and having a made up bed.

7. What do other family members do in the way of cleaning the house?

Not make messes.

Which my other family member (in the house) does a much better job of than I.

She also does dishes and cleans the kitchen pretty frequently.

Otherwise, she doesn’t make messes, so why should she clean them up?

8. What, if anything, do you do to make housecleaning more enjoyable, (e.g., play music, set a timer, etc.).

I used to listen to audio books quite a bit while I cleaned. Now, I tend to set timers and give myself 15 minutes of cleaning or decluttering and then 15 minutes of internet time (rinse and repeat as many times as I can bear.)

9. What things make a room seem messy or unclean to you?

Stuff on the floor (which is totally one of my personal failings).

10. What are particular areas that are standouts to you that other people miss?

I think I’m a very unpicky cleaner. While I prefer to cover everything with a fine-toothed comb (when I’m deep cleaning or in “stove job” mode), I don’t generally look too deeply when others are cleaning.

It does drive me nuts when people wipe a surface and don’t get rid of all the “sticky” though.

11. How do you motivate yourself to clean when you don’t feel like it?

That is the question of the day.

I’ll let you know when I get motivation.

Frankly, I usually invite someone over, which does a good job of motivating me towards basic presentability (at least, getting stuff off the floor.)

Honors and Pleasures

I’m not always so great about picking up my blog awards and passing them along–but I figured I’d do that today in lieu of my usual meme.

Last month, I was delighted and honored to receive the “Stylish Blogger” award from Bobbi of Blogging Along.

And now, this week, Monica of Being a Titus 2 Woman has bestowed on me the Versatile Blogger award.

Versatile Blogger Award

Thank you to Bobbe and Monica both–it’s an honor and a pleasure to have you as readers (and online friends).

The “rules” for both awards state that I should list 7 random things about me and then award 15 other bloggers with the same awards–but I’m going to be somewhat of a rule-breaker and will tell you 7 non-random things about me and then award 7 other bloggers with the Stylish and Versatile blogger awards.

Non-Random Info about Me: Honors Received

  1. Today, I received the nicest thank you note from one of the girls who came to my tie-dye party. She thanked me for the party and said she can’t wait to do more stuff with me. (I agree, I can’t wait to do more with her!)
  2. I went in to work today to finish up some work, recognizing that I probably won’t have much time to get stuff done next week–and I found an e-mail from a coworker in my inbox. She was stressed, but she said she appreciated how much of a help I’ve been in the past several weeks. (I am glad to be of help.)
  3. One of the nurses at one of the facilities I consult with poked her head into my door yesterday, just to chat. We talked a bit about books and education–and then she told me “I’m sorry I’m taking so much of your time. It’s just that you’re so nice” (I don’t at all mind–and I so appreciate her kind words.)
  4. After Bible Study on Wednesday, my sister and I and another gal stuck around chatting with our Bible study leader and her son. We had a raucous time, with plenty of laughter all around–and as we were leaving, my Bible study leader said, “You guys are idiots…” and then qualified, “just like a part of the family.” (Oh how I enjoy being a part of your family.)
  5. I was fishing for compliments on Facebook on Tuesday–quoting a spam comment “You must be a genius” and begging a real person to tell me the same–when my Dad Facebook IM’d me. He told me I was smart, but that smarts weren’t everything. He quoted I Corinthians 8:1-3

    “Now concerning things offered to idols: We know that we all have knowledge. Knowledge puffs up, but love edifies. And if anyone thinks that he knows anything, he knows nothing yet as he ought to know. But if anyone loves God, this one is known by Him.”

    and then told me “Bekah, you love God.” (I am so blessed to be known by God–and to have a Dad who reminds me of the true honor found in that.)

  6. This week, I was talking with someone–I don’t even remember who–and she passed on that she’d heard one of the uppers mention that she thought I was doing a great job. (It’s so nice to hear affirmation on the job–where I so often feel like I’m making unbearably slow progress.)
  7. Last week, one of the women I’m close to at church wrote me a note saying how much she appreciates me. She said she loves to have me as a part of her family–and looks forward to including me even more with her family. (I am so blessed an honored to have her and her family’s friendship.)

Now that I’ve got myself crying as I recall receiving so much (mostly unmerited) honor, it is my pleasure to bestow the small honors of the Stylish Blogger Award and the Versatile Blogger Award on 7 blogs I enjoy.

7 Stylish and Versatile Bloggers
Awarded alphabetically by first name rather than by order of importance.

  1. Barbara of Stray Thoughts
    Books, Christianity, and Everyday life. These might be Barbara’s “stray” thoughts, but I find them quite on point. Barbara’s writing challenges and encourages me.
  2. Carrie of Reading to Know
    Whether it’s a review of a children’s book at Reading my Library or a reflection on hospitality at Offering Hospitality or a rant on some book or another at Reading to Know, I love reading what Carrie writes.
  3. Davene of Spilled
    This lady is just plain special. She’s one of my earliest bloggie friends–and she’s a friend worth keeping. What’s more, her vignettes and reflections from life as a wife and mother are delightful (Check out her “Speaking of Love” theme from this month.)
  4. Jenna of Breath Captures Photography
    I’ve only been following Jenna for a couple of months, but I am majorly impressed with her beautiful photos–she is one talented teen.
  5. Jim of Jim’s Little Blog
    Not sure what Jim’ll think of the “Stylish” moniker–but I do love reading this transplanted Husker’s blog. He’s a regular participant in Flashback Fridays (with the advantage that he’s older than your average blogger and thus has more memories to share) and also writes some mean micro-fiction. What with all the life experiences he’s had (and still has), this man astounds me!
  6. Lisa of Lisa Notes
    Whether it’s a book review, a reflection on life, or a devotional thought, Lisa’s writing is pure poetry.
  7. Lori of Argyle and Apricots
    Her writing can be random, a bit here-a bit there. Miscellany. Deep thoughts and silly stuff. But it’s always interesting. I love it when a new post of hers pops up in my reader.

So there you have it. Honors bestowed that I’m pleased to pass along.

Now I know my A-B-C’s

Memes that ask about crushes

Brand of cell phone:

a 1999 (I think) Subaru Legacy

Day or Night:
Those ephemeral moments in between, when the sun awakes from its sleep or prepares for its rest–and the rest of the world follows suit.

Fried crisp in massive amounts of fat, on top of of buttered whole wheat toast.

Favorite Month:
Not sure.

2003, 2007, and someday (?)

5’9″ or 5’10”

Ice Cream:
Butter Brickle (or Raspberry Cow Tracks with dark chocolate)

In-house dietitian for a long-term-care facility (and consultant for two other LTCs)

Someday, should the Lord will
As many as He wills
Preferably more than five

Longest Car Ride:
Either to Monterrey, Mexico and Back
Or to London, Ontario via Chicago and back around the Great Lakes

Milk Flavor:
I don’t like flavored milk
unless it’s hot.
Then, I love any kind
Peach with almond.
Chocolate with mint.
Hazelnut and caramel.

Number of Siblings:

One Wish:
That I would grow in the likeness of Christ.

Part of Your Appearance You Like Best:
I pretty much love my body.
Particularly my crooked nose
and my supraclavicular fossae
and my long arms
and… well, I won’t go into the rest right here

“My circumstances are not my life. Christ Jesus is my life.”

Reason to Smile:
The Prophet like Moses has come, and He I have heard
The Great High Priest has sacrificed, and in Him I am covered
The King reigns, and I am His subject

Hot pink faux patent leather flats

Time You Woke Up:

Umbrella design/Color:
Black with white fleur-de-lis

Vegetable You Hate:
I do not hate vegetables.
I love food.

Worst Habits:
Relying on myself.

Humerus and Ulna
Broken or carious.
Sad days.

Year You Were Born:
The year after Anna
and before Joshua

Zzzzz What time do you go to bed?:
Way too late.

Ambitions, Fears, and Deep Existential Questions


Do you plan on being a musician/artist/writer?

I plan on being an amateur musician (whenever I can find the time to practice), playing the piano while my children sing along.

I plan to be an artist who works in imaginative media to make the lives of those around her beautiful.

I plan on being a writer–well, can’t you tell that I’m kinda into writing?

What age would you like to die?

120, having lived a very full life.

Or whatever time it please God.

How would you like to die?

I’d like to die like the one-hoss shay, where every part of me, having lived a long, full, productive life simply collapse and I die in a moment.

But if that can’t be, I suppose I’ll die in whatever way it please God.

Would you let your kids smoke weed?

What kind of question is that? Inasmuch as my will influences that decision, I will not let my kids smoke weed. But children have wills of their own, and don’t always do (or not do) what their parents would have them do (or not do.) I pray that God would restrain them from self-destructive habits such as this.

What do you want to be next Halloween?

I haven’t thought that far in advance, but maybe an astronaut or a ballet dancer or an old man. (I’ve done old woman before, but have never successfully cross-dressed. Maybe this year?)

If you could be any celebrity for one day, who would you be?

I think I would rather not live, even for a day, on someone else’s earthly fame. I would rather do something myself that would amplify God’s fame throughout all of eternity.

What do you wish your name was?



Actually, I’m quite pleased with Rebekah Marie (aka bekahcubed)

How old do you want to be when you get married?



Or whenever it please God.

What do you want to name your kids?

Girls? Bible place names like Bethel, Tirzah, Sharon, and Shiloh

Boys? Not sure about first names, but I’d love to have family names as middle names. For instance: William (my paternal grandmother’s maiden name), Ulrich (a paternal great-grandmother’s maiden name), Pierce (my maternal grandmother’s maiden name), or Nelson (a maternal great-grandmother’s maiden name)

What kind of hairstyle do you want?

For now, I’ll stick with what I’ve got.

For someday, whatever hairstyle pleases my husband


Describe your most terrifying dream.
I have several…

…someone kidnapping my little brother John (back when he actually was little) and driving off with him down Superior street, despite me running after the pickup begging to have him back.

…an old woman grabbing my little brother John (who has always been incredibly full of life) and plunging his head beneath the water in a bathtub. She didn’t kill him, but he emerged a different person (with brain damage, I guess)–the life was gone from his face.

…the recurring one where I stood outside the gates of an enormous compound that the world thought was a spa. I stood there crying out “Don’t go in, don’t go in. There’s death behind those doors. It’s a trap.” But despite my warnings, friend after friend entered the compound. I went in to try to rescue them from certain death–and then I was running, running endlessly through the halls. I was chased and I was running, endlessly through the halls. Seeking my friends. Fearing my life. Fearing their lives even more. Running, running, endlessly until I awoke.

Are you afraid of the swine flu?

No, I’m not a pig, so I don’t really think about it much.

Do you get creeped out by puppets?

No. I love puppets and am disappointed that they’ve fallen out of vogue.

Sometime I should videotape some of my Mom’s puppet skits (particularly the one’s where Mom uses “Granny”). Such things should be preserved for future generations. “Land ‘sakes, child!”

Do you have any phobias?

Yes. I am afraid of being hung by my belly-button, of having someone cut my hair in my sleep, and of In-Vitro Fertilization.

Are you afraid to be yourself?

Only inasmuch as my self is sinful and totally depraved and wreaks havoc on those I love. Inasmuch as God has chosen to demonstrate His own nature through my self (imago dei), I am delighted to be myself (with all of my quirks and furbelows)


Are you happy in your life?

I think I am.

Do you feel like anything is missing? If so, what do you want?

I feel like something is missing. A husband, children. But God knows better than my feelings, and He has placed me here with this set of circumstances for His glory and my good.

Tell me a bit about yourself? What are you ambitions and fears? How would you answer these deep existential questions?

Just the Facts

Name: Rebekah Marie Menter

Age: Old enough to stop telling :-P

Do you live with your parents?
How many siblings do you have?
What grade are you in?
When do you graduate?

No. Six and an in-law. 18+. Someday.

Are you an angry person?
Are you a hater?
Are you anti-racist?
Are you emo?
Are you moody?
Are you depressed?
What would you label yourself?

I don’t think so. I don’t think so. I don’t know. No. Probably. Sometimes. A follower of Christ.

Do you like comedies?
Do you read literature?
Do you love horror movies?
Do you like silver hair?

Yes, especially Much Ado about Nothing. Yes. No. Yes.

Are you a smoker?
Do you smoke cigars/cigarillos?
What are you addicted too?

No. No. I— I’m hooked on a feeling…

Do you work out?
Are you in good physical condition?
Can you even fist fight?

No. No. Erm… No.

Do you talk to yourself?
Do I talk to myself? That’s a good question. “Self, tell me, do you talk to yourself?” Oh, wait…

Do you wear skinny jeans?
Would you consider yourself intelligent?
Explain your personality in 3 words.

Yes, on occasion.

Yes and No

Completing the meme in a rather different fashion.

…there is someone (many ones) who mean(s) a lot to me.
…I have laughed so hard I cried
…I remember who I liked in 7th grade (and I’ll bet a lot of other people do too)
…I am looking forward to the next couple months
…I have scars
…Someone (some folk) call me “Babe” sometimes
…I have liked someone older than me
…I can make change for a dollar just now
…People often think I’m younger (or older) than I actually am
…I can braid hair

…I have never stayed up all night on the phone
…I would not move somewhere else (just now) if given the opportunity
…I do not like the Jonas Brothers (but I don’t particularly dislike them either
…There are not boys I can tell anything to
…I am not afraid to grow up
…I would never get a tattoo (prolly)
…I do not dye my hair (although I have once)
…I have never played Spin The Bottle
…I do not like voicemails
…I am not good at hiding my feelings
…I have never gotten alcohol poisoning
…I have never been suspended

With ten “yes”es and twelve “no”s, I am official tipping the scale toward negativity. Sorry to be a downer, folks. :-)

According to this survey, I’m 27

…but I think this survey is totally whacked. Several of the questions are some teenager’s idea of what constitutes adulthood–but truly don’t even come close. If the survey were more accurate, it would say that I’m 35. Because I am. Honestly.

[X] You know how to make a pot of coffee

[X] You keep track of dates using a calendar
How else would you keep track of dates? Anything else would be like using a screwdriver to pound nails.

[] You own a credit card
If this is a mark of maturity, I’m proud to be an infant.

[X] You know how to change the oil in a car
I not only know HOW, but I actually DO change the oil in my car about once every three month.

[X] You’ve done your own laundry
I would changes this question to “You do”. Adults don’t do their laundry once and then turn it back over to someone else.

[X] You can vote in an election
How about, “You are an informed voter, and actually vote in elections”?

[X] You can cook for yourself

[X] You think politics are interesting
Politics IS interesting. Politics are not interesting. By which I mean, national politics is an interesting subject. Being involved in politicking (office politics, etc.) is not.

[] You show up for school late a lot
School? What’s that? And promptness seems a bit more grown-up than tardiness.

[X] You always carry a pen/pencil in your bag/purse/pocket

[X] You’ve never gotten a detention

[] You have forgotten your own birthday

[X] You like to take walks by yourself

[X] You know what credibility means, without looking it up

[X] You drink caffeine at least once a week

[X] You know how to do the dishes
They should add “by hand”. If so, it’d rule out every single one of my lab students. I think we should start requiring life skills classes in high school–make students learn how to sweep floors, wipe tables, and wash dishes (Oh, and recognize the difference between a towel and a washcloth.) It’s amazing how many simple skills are lacking in today’s youth.

[X] You can count to 10 in another language

[X] When you say you’re going to do something you do it

[X] You can mow the lawn

[X] You study even when you don’t have to

[X] You have hand washed a car before

[X] You can spell experience, without looking it up

[] The people at Starbucks know you by name

[] Your favorite kind of food is take out

[X] You can go to the store without getting something you don’t need

[X] You understand political jokes the first time they are said

[X] You can type pretty quick
Was that “You can type PRETTY QUICK” (as in the words “Pretty quick”), or did it intend to say “You can type pretty quickly”? Yes, I am nit-picky about adjectives and adverbs.

[] Your only friends are from your place of employment (school counts as employment)
I don’t know what kind of adult they’re talking about here–’cause most adults I know have other ways of knowing people. They have old friends and church friends and acquaintances from here or there and neighbor-friends, etc.

[X] You have been to a Tupperware party

[] You have realized that practically no one will take you seriously unless you are over the age of 25 and have a job
People took me seriously before I was 25 and had a job. Maybe it just depends on whether you say something worth being taken seriously.

[] You have more bills than you can pay
Thanks to a little thing called “responsibility”, I choose to only accrue bills that I can afford to pay. What kind of survey is this?

[X] You have been to the beach

[X] You use the internet every day

[X] You have been outside of the United States 3 or more times

[X] You make your bed in the morning
First thing